Oct 17, 2007

Helping Your Kids Navigate a Divorce

Have I mentioned before how divorce can be hard on kids? Not that they won't survive it, especially if their parents can keep things relatively civil. But they'll have issues, and they may need support and information. No doubt you're doing your best to listen and talk to your kids--but that may not always be so easy. There are lots of resources for parents, and we'll get into those in another post. For now, here are some ideas of age-appropriate divorce resources for kids at all stages: 

Two Homes, by Claire Masurel (Candlewick Press) is a picture book for very young children about going back and forth between Mom and Dad's houses.

At Daddy's On Saturdays, by Linda Walvoord Girard (Albert Whitman & Co) is for young grade-school children and has text and pictures about a young girl learning to adjust to seeing her father on weekends.

Dinosaurs  Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families, by Laurene Krasny Brown and Marc Brown (Little, Brown & Co) is an extremely popular book for good reason--it uses humorous drawings and simple but straightforward text to deal with the really difficult issues of divorce, including having two homes, birthdays and holidays, stepparents you don't like, and what to do when your parents badmouth each other.

Kids' Divorce Workbook: A Practical Guide that Helps Kids Understand Divorce Happens to the Nicest Kids, by Michael S. Prokop (Alegra House) offers space for kids to write and draw about their feelings, alongside the words and drawings of other children dealing with divorce. An excellent resource for kids who might be more comfortable with writing or drawing.

 Help Hope and Happiness, by Libby Rees (Aultbea Publishing) is written by a 10-year-old and contains her advice for kids on coping with divorce; the book is only available from its UK publisher at www.aultbeapublishing.com or www.amazon.co.uk.

What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce? A Survival Guide for Kids, by Roberta Beyer and Kent Winchester (Free Spirit Publishing), is aimed at kids 7- to 12-years old, and explains divorce, new living situations, and dealing with difficult feelings in ways that should resonate with the preteen set.

The Divorce Helpbook for Teens, by Cynthia MacGregor (Impact Publishers) is a thorough, plain-language, un-condescending book offering guidance on navigating the challenges of divorce.